We were both lucky enough to meet some pretty amazing people and make some lifelong friends during our undergrads. Unfortunately, graduation came with these friends moving home and on to different cities for graduate school and new jobs. We found ourselves in the postundergraduate world of being 20something and feeling a bit lonely. Gone were the days of dining hall breakfast that turned into lunch, of nights out at our old stomping ground where we knew everyone in the bar (including the bouncers), and the simplicity of just spending time with friends whether it was at the library or the gym. After going through some pretty lonely times, we realized that making friends in our 20s is easier said than done. That being said, we knew we were going to need to be proactive if we wanted a squad to rival Taylor Swift’s. Whether you’ve recently moved back home or moved across the world, we know we’re not the only ones who have been in the position of wanting to meet some new people so we’ve decided to share our best ways and opportunities to get yourself out there yes some ways may sound like dating tips....
Get involved- This has to be one of our favourite tips for being successful in so many different ways throughout our 20s which is why it has come up time and time again in bronze & gold posts. The simplest way to meet people and expose yourself to a new group is to join one. Whether it be netball_, innertube water polo, or a book club, you’ll be introduced to a whole group of potential new friends. Even if you don’t end up connecting outside of your weekly game or meeting, it stills gives you at least one social outing every week.
Take the initiative to set up an event- Elaborating on tip #1, we’ve learned that joining a team doesn’t necessarily guarantee new gal pals to go out for brunch with. There may be others who are just as eager to meet people as you are but since many will already have their own friend groups, it may be up to you to initiate an outing. Suggesting grabbing dinner or a drink after your game or meeting is an easy way to meet up outside of your activity. Even if only one person agrees it will still be a great opportunity to get to know someone new. That being said, if someone from work, a friend of a friend, or a teammate ever suggests an activity, say yes! Never turn down an opportunity to put yourself out there and connect with people, even if it’s something that’s completely out of your comfort zone. You’ll either have a great time or worst case scenario a great story to laugh at later on.
Take advantage of technology- Thanks to wifi and smartphones, meeting friends can be just a click away. We think it’s so cool that the internet realized we already rely on the web for shopping and dating, so hey, why not meeting new pals too! There are two avenues we are going to suggest here, not because we’ve used them personally but because we are curious: Girl Crew and Bumble BFF. We stumbled across Girl Crew on Facebook one day and love its premise. It started when a girl wanted to go out dancing but her small group of friends already had other plans. She changed her gender on Tinder to male (so she would come up on girls accounts) and used her profile picture to explain her situation. It didn’t take long for hundreds of girls who were also in the same situation to match and suddenly it grew into small groups of girls who wanted to meet up and hang out whether it was for a night out, a coffee, or a running session. Check out girlcrew.rocks to find a group in your city to join! We can’t wait to give it a go! By now you all know how pro Tinder we are so you may be surprised we’re recommending one of its competitors. Bumble is a similar dating app but it has now branched out and launched BumbleBFF, where you can be switched to “BFF Mode” and swipe through potential friends instead of dates.
As 20somethings we are so lucky to have infinite opportunity to meet and get acquainted with new people. We have travel opportunities out the wazoo where we grow our networks beyond borders. We are able to reach outside the walls of our small towns and connect with people from different backgrounds, cultures, and traditions. And stay connected beyond our time together through a variety of social media avenues. Getting involved, taking initiative, and using technology are just a couple of the awesome ways to meet new gal pals (and bonus: grow as a person!). If you’ve been sitting on the fence about trying new things, or sitting on the couch wishing there were new things to try, or sitting on friends who are dragging you down, now’s the time! If you’ve used any of these or something else to meet new pals please let us know in the comments! And keep us posted on any revelations, funny or awkward encounters, or creative approaches you took.
Teal & Mad