It’s our birthday tradition to write each other a list of attributes, bucket-list goals, or whatever is relevant to us at the time. The list is numbered to total the age we are turning. Some past examples: “18 Reasons Sidney Crosby wants to marry you”, “19 Reasons you’re meant to be a star”, you get the picture. This year, though, in honour of Mad’s 23rd birthday today (and our increasing maturity), we’ve come up with a list of 23 things that we’ve learned in the first few years of our 20s……sticking with the theme of bronze & gold and sharing our ripe wisdom for all 20-somethings:
1. Put your phone down and enjoy the moments of your life… everything doesn’t need to be on record. In my family we say “remember it the first time around” and there’s something to that… soak it up.
2. Don’t be afraid to try something new (work a random job, volunteer for something you never expected to, etc), you never know what hobby or passion you may discover.
3. Write down your mom or your grandma’s or your aunt’s recipes now before it’s too late and you can’t figure out how they made their stuffing, pie crust, spaghetti sauce, chocolate cake (Edith, when you read this put pen to paper and finally start the cookbook I gave you!)
4. It’s okay to like fleece jams, they’re sexy in their own right and real people don’t actually sleep in those lacy silk negligees.
5. If you don’t know the difference between "your” and “you’re” or “their”, “they’re”, and "there”, learn it! To someone who does know the difference, these mistakes are a huge turn off.
6. You will grow apart from friends. We change a lot during our 20s and not everyone changes the same way. Quality over quantity. Put in the effort to maintain your friendships but know when to let one go.
7. Always keep learning - go to every free workshop and seminar you can. I've never gone to a workshop and regretted it.
8. Good quality shoes are worth the money… your feet and your fashion archives will thank you.
9. Set goals and change them often.
10. Find a travel buddy and take big trips, small adventures. Lots of them!
11. Go on at least one blind date in your life (Tinder counts)... putting yourself out there like that, as long as you’re safe, helps you grow and usually makes for a hell of a story.
12. Steve Jobs said it best “The only way to do great work is to love what you do”.
13. The lifestyle you maintain in your 20s will more than likely carry on throughout your life: eat healthy, workout, but remember it’s okay to treat yo’ self!
14. It’s completely normal to feel lost, lonely, and wondering where your life is headed every other minute.
15. Read the newspaper (even if it’s electronic), being informed is important. And Buzzfeed doesn’t count.
16. Puppy snuggles make a lot of worries go away so squeeze them in whenever you can.
17. Grab a pencil and a notebook and write the old fashioned way… grocery lists, love notes, anything. It scares us that our kids may not know how to hold a pencil or write in cursive.
18. Find your person… the one you can call when you know you’re being irrational, your hormones are raging, or you just need a third party outsider to validate your emotions.
19. Keep snacks in your purse. You never know when the elevator will stall, your car will run out of gas, or a meeting will run too long. Same goes for a bottle of water.
20. Have a trashy reality TV show that you watch shamelessly. It’s an amazing reality check into what really matters and how together your life really is!
21. If you keep having thoughts about doing something, do it! Whether it’s a career change, a trip, starting a business, you don’t want to look back years from now and wonder what if.
22. Talk to people in the elevators, Starbucks line, anywhere.. you never know who you’re going to meet and what wisdom they will have to offer.
23. Whatever you do, put your whole heart into it… don’t do anything half ass!
Lots of love,
Mad & Teal