Sydney embodies the bronze & gold message in every way and shares our love for new adventures and bucket lists. She was Teal's roommate and partner in crime in Montreal and is one of those true friends that just don't come around often- one that you know will always be there for you. Syd's a star baker, loves fishing, plus we're pretty sure she easily takes the title for hottest librarian around. We are so excited to feature her on bronze & gold!
Valentine’s Day. By far my least favourite “holiday”, where once a year the rest of the world reminds me how perpetually single I am. As we watch our hitched friends go on sappy dates, get cute presents and generally get showered in love, it can be pretty easy for those of us flying solo to get down on ourselves. BUT, as someone who’s been single for going on 6 years now, I’ve learned to embrace it. Since this blog is about navigating our 20s, I thought I would take this time to help my fellow solo artists out there by imparting some of my accumulated wisdom.
So in true BuzzFeed fashion… anyone who knows me knows this is, in a small way, fulfilling a huge dream of mine.
5 Reasons to Appreciate Being Single:
1. Cool dates to Cool places with Cool people
One of the perks of being single is navigating the dating scene. Anyone who has been on a few too many bad dates or worried over that long awaited text that never comes may be giving me shade right now, but hear me out. I’ve had the chance to meet a lot of cool people and go to a lot of cool place I otherwise wouldn’t have experienced. And yah, some dates were utter disasters but you learn to laugh at yourself and they make for funny stories around the campfire!
2. Pick up and move on a whim
When I graduated from my Masters this past spring I found myself in the same situation I’m sure most 20 something’s have been in: unemployed, broke, and looking to start my dream job. So when I was offered a position in my field 1500km away I figured WHY NOT!? While it was definitely hard to leave my family and friends behind, not having to worry about the impact my move would have on two people was very liberating.
3. More time with friends
Now I’m not saying people in relationships don't see their friends. But we all have a friend or two who has gone M.I.A. when they meet ‘the one’. All I’m saying is that when it’s just you, you inevitably end up spending more time with your friends since you can’t fall back on spending time with your significant other. You’re able to invest in long-term friendships that will support you before, during and after any romantic relationships.
4. Life is your oyster
When you’re single your decisions are all on you. You’re free to do what you want when you want. You can be super adventurous and take up weird hobbies, then spend the next day binge watching that new Netflix show while you down an entire bowl of popcorn on your own. Judgment free.
5. Discover who YOU are
As cliché as this may sound it’s very accurate. Being single in your 20s allows you to figure out who you are as an individual. The person I was five years ago is not at all the same person I am today. I’ve been able to spend this time discovering what my interests are, who I want to be as a person and where I want to be in life. I truly believe that figuring out who you are on your own before sharing your life with someone else is one of the most important things you can do for any future relationships you may have.
I took the title of this post from a quote I found:
“Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.”
So for those who haven’t found the one yet: Hopefully Mr. or Mrs. Right comes along someday, but in the meantime take your 20’s to enjoy your independence and just DO YOU.